Sunday, July 12, 2009


Is it wrong to call someone out on their responsibility? I know you step on toes, but why should I have to continuously pay for someone else's mistakes?

So here's the deal. I've asked this person over and over about this certain thing (sorry I'm not being specific) I got tired of asking so took the proper steps to get it taken care of- the right way. Of course other people have to get themselves involved... because things between two people can't stay between two people.

I'm sorry this "thing" has caused anyone else undue stress. I'm sorry your feelings toward me are what they are- negatively and you feel you, (and others), still feel you have to call me nasty names.

I know I'm not a bad person. If you do something wrong, then you must own up to the consequences. So the consequences may not be what you want them to be, but that's a part of life.

I have had to own up to some really sucky things and had to pay for it. I've had to suffer the consequences of other people's decisions that have affected my life. That's a part of life.

Sometimes a choice you make, or someone else makes, years ago you still have to pay for. Deal with it. If someone calls you out on something that is your responsibility, that doesn't make them vindictive. If you think so then I'm sorry that you have to live in the real world. If the tables were turned I know for a fact that I would be the one on the other end.

I have felt a little guilty because in all reality I do appear to be better off. But I've worked really hard for what I have and where I am currently in my life. I do what I'm supposed to do and I continue to work hard. Things aren't handed to me. Sometimes if you want something you have to be willing to give up other things. I wanted a college degree so I gave up a lot of my free time to do it. 2 years, plus I worked full time while I did it. And I'm paying for that degree!

I've learned that you can't judge people just like you can't judge a book by it's cover. You can't assume you know things when you really don't. I know- I'm bad about judging others myself, but I'm working on it.

I'm far from perfect! But I'm trying to be a better person and a better mother and I'm trying to live by the standards I expect among others around me. I thought I knew a lot a year ago and I thought I knew a lot 5 years ago or even 10 years ago. It turns out that every so often I realize I didn't know near as much as I thought I did.

Lesson: Be responsible, accept the consequences of not being responsible.

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